You’d be surprised to know that, as someone who has a healthy marriage, who has had good role models, whose husband has had good role models, who knows what a healthy marriage looks like, and who knows how to create a healthy marriage, my marriage is not always pretty.

Most days we’re just coexisting, nothing’s particularly loving, exciting, or over-the-top. Once a week we probably have some sort of challenge of something that annoyed both of us. Once a month we probably have a straight-up blowout, with crying, where we sit and talk for hours about whatever it is that we’re trying to work through…

And that’s healthy.

A lot of times people don’t know that they’re even in a healthy relationship because they think that it’s supposed to be something that it’s not. Healthy relationships have ups and downs.