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Jasmin Balance Picks: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Love this article, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck… so funny and right to the point!

In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference.
People often say the key to confidence and success in life is to simply “not give a fuck.” Indeed, we often refer to the strongest, most admirable people we know in terms of their lack of fucks given. Like “Oh, look at Susie working weekends again, she doesn’t give a fuck.” Or “Did you hear that Tom called the company president an asshole and still got a raise anyway? Holy shit, that dude does not give a fuck.” Or “Jason got up and ended his date with Cindy after 20 minutes. He said he wasn’t going to listen to her bullshit anymore. Man, that guy does not give a fuck.”
Chances are you know somebody in your life who, at one time or another, did not give a fuck and went on to accomplish amazing feats. Perhaps there was a time in your life where you simply did not give a fuck and excelled to some extraordinary heights.

Click here to read the full article at MarkManson.net.

Jasmin Balance Picks The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F.ck

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Jasmin Balance Picks: Why Do We Kiss?

Powerful insight in “Why Do We Kiss” by Michael Stevens from Vsauce. Not only was it interesting to consider why we kiss, but this also gave a lot of poignant insight about how babies respond to being rejected or ignored by parents.

Jasmin Balance Picks: 10 Choices You Will Regret in Ten Years

Good things to think about… 10 Choices You Will Regret in Ten Years

1. Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true toyour own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing. Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
3. Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.

Click here to read the rest of the article at The Mind Unleashed.
10 Choices You Will Regret In Ten Years
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I had a baby!

Jasmin Terrany and Baby Zen
So… I haven’t been particularly public about my pregnancy (yes – all of my videos are purposely recorded from the head up). I’m not really sure, why… perhaps because I’ve been taught that therapists are not supposed to self-disclose, or perhaps I didn’t want to make my social media about me, when it is supposed to be about you… Whatever the reason, I’ve decided to share with you all a bit about my pregnancy and birthing experience, not simply because it was beautiful, but because I learned and grew a lot from the experience and hope that perhaps someone out there will gain a grain of goodness from my sharing…When we found out I was pregnant in February 2013, my husband and I were really excited. Throughout my pregnancy, I was continually struck by how profound it was to create life within me, yet how natural and normal it felt to do it. One thing I got particularly interested in was the process of giving birth. It became something I started thinking about all the time. In this society I’ve found that people tend to spend more time picking out a car than researching their birth options, and I wasn’t quite comfortable just jumping on the bandwagon with the current birthing procedure.This movie, “The Business of Being Born” was really the start of my curiosity. You can find it on Netflix or here on YouTube (only from computer not from mobile). I highly recommend it.It was in this film that I was exposed to the concept of having a completely natural, drug free, home-birth in a bathtub. When I saw the movie for the first time, I didn’t really think I’d end up doing it, but after some time and thought I realized that I really believed in my body’s ability to birth, and that I trusted my ability to soothe and comfort myself, and above all I truly wanted to fully experience the gift of bringing life into this world. I realized I couldn’t think of anything more profound, natural, empowering, and purely vulnerable than birthing a child.
So I made it my mission to learn about how I could make this the most beautiful and peaceful experience possible. I found a class called HypnoBirthing, which is based on the premise that birthing doesn’t have to be painful, scary or dramatic like in the movies. It teaches that our bodies inherently know how to birth, and that if we can train our minds and bodies to relax throughout the process, it can be peaceful and maybe even pleasant! Here is a news clip about it: Hynobirthing.
After learning these theories about child birthing and watching lots of videos of people having drama-free water births, I was committed to creating my beautiful birth plan. I exchanged my daily hour meditation for the hypno-birthing meditations, I took prenatal yoga classes and spend much time visualizing and practicing relaxation techniques for this beautiful birth.
I’m not going to lie, it wasn’t easy to handle all of the fears, questions, and concerns from my family and friends regarding our choice to have a home birth, but I just kept returning to the notion that I am committed to creating the life that I want, and that I don’t make choices based in fear. I knew that I had done all the research possible and trusted the midwives and doula who were going to be there for the birth, and most of all I knew I trusted myself, and my ability birth naturally, (even though I had never done it)!
Once the labor started, all my fears went instantly out the window. We kept the room dark, with dim lighting and my meditation music played on repeat, as I moved and breathed my baby down….I knew that above all I was committed to keeping the energy around me as calm, still and peaceful as possible…
I was in active labor for only 4 hours (which included a walk on the beach by moonlight) and I birthed our baby boy in our jacuzzi tub at 4:24am on November 8th, 2013.
When looking back at the experience (although there was definitely more pain that I had hoped for, and 3 times I can remember thinking that next time I wanted a c-section!), I feel truly empowered, knowing that my dedication and commitment to doing the work to prepare for this special experience actually manifested exactly what I had believed was possible.
This experience reiterated beliefs that I have always tried to live by… We are the creators of our reality. We have more power within us than we’ll ever know…
So in sum, I welcome to the world, my perfect baby boy. His name is Zen… go figure. 🙂
I still can’t really believe I’m a mommy… it’s gonna take some time to wrap my head around this one…

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