If you start to realize that “this relationship hurts me, more than helps me,” it’s a really good indication that it’s not the ideal relationship for you.
I think people who tend towards depression, are most likely going to find someone who’s equally depressed, and that’s kind of where the dysfunction begins.
I think one of the most difficult things for people in order to end a relationship like that is that it’s hard to choose nothing over something. I like to think of us as having kind of this little relationship box, and when our relationship box is filled and we have someone in that relationship box, there’s a sense of comfort, even if the comfort is detrimental to us, even if it’s hurting us – that box isn’t void. And I think that it takes a lot of courage and a lot of conviction to see the bigger picture and to not be scared of the discomfort that comes from having that box empty.