I found this short video on “What is Optimal Love?” to be particularly helpful for those who are concerned about issues within their relationships. Here is the general overview of what Tal Ben-Shahar speaks about:
- Optimal love relationships grow more and more intimate, with both ups and downs but having a general upward trajectory
- Conflict is part of healthy relationship
- If a relationship extreme on either end of spectrum (only conflict or avoiding it altogether) this is not healthy
- Gridlocks in a relationship, feeling stuck, often feels like the end, but it can often be the beginning of much growth