Today, I want to give you three tips to help with anxiety.
Everybody’s got anxiety and stress. So how do we deal with it?
Essentially, when we feel anxious our mind is spinning, our heart starts racing, and our feelings are all up connected with our thoughts. So we’ve got these thoughts and these feelings and they’re just going. We have no control over them, we feel so stuck in them, and we don’t know what to do. So how do we deal with it? By taking a step back and understanding that there’s a bigger picture.
There are three key ways to get yourself out of your stuff, and realize that all these reactions happening inside your body aren’t actually important.
1. Say “at least”
This is a great way to find gratitude. At least your kids are healthy, at least you have running water, at least you have clean air. There are so many things in our lives that people don’t have, and when we get all caught up in them, we create anxiety around things that don’t matter. In that way, we’re not only doing ourselves a disservice, but we’re doing a disservice to those around us.
2. Say “so what”
So what if you’re late, so what if you don’t show up to work on time, so what if your kids want to wear their pajamas to school, so what? When you’re in the moment of a hurricane, or a disaster, or a tragedy, you start to realize that all of those things that we think are important really aren’t important. The things that we react to and create anxiety in our lives usually don’t matter as much as we think that they do. So how do we bring that awareness to the forefront of our mind and keep things in perspective? By saying “so what.”
3. Say “I get to” instead of “I have to”
There’s a lot of: “Oh I have to do this, I have to do that.” Change that with: “I get to do this.” “I get to clean my dirty dishes because I’m able-bodied and have food to eat. I get to go to my job because I am lucky enough to have a job.” There are so many things we have that are blessings to us, and so many people don’t have them.
So just when you’re feeling stressed, and you’re feeling anxious, it’s really important to use these strategies to come back to what matters most. Because, in reality, the things that we think are important usually aren’t.