Check out this article on Oprah.com: Love Myths
Here are a few parts that I found particularly valuable…
“When you want someone who can anticipate your thoughts and desires, you’re really looking for an idealized parent—usually a combination of Mommy and Daddy wrapped into one. For years, I was looking for men who would think I was charming and make me feel safe—like Daddy’s best girl,” she says. The craving for that kind of attention is rampant. “I see women all the time who say they’re looking for romantic relationships, but I believe they’re really looking to be parented….
We all want to feel special and dear, with our foibles bathed in the loving glow of a doting father,” she says. “At the same time that we want Daddy’s strong arms, we also want a mother’s sweetness and tenderness.” And when the romance goes south, she says, you end up feeling like a child who’s been abandoned and is lost…”
“Love is the ideological bone women have been thrown,” she says, meaning that in our society, men often get the real power while women are fed the false promises of ‘magic candy’ romance—that someone special will shower us with attention, give us our identity, read our mind, and intuit our needs…”
“I think that when people say they’re lonely, what they’re really saying is that they don’t like their own company..”
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