Should my boyfriend discipline my kids?

 
All situations are different and individual, and there is gray area, however my gut says no.
The most important thing is that your kids feel like they are your priority above all. The second the boyfriend, someone who isn’t officially in the family and who doesn’t officially have a parental role, takes precedence over them, it becomes a problem and it creates a conflict.
So it’s beautiful if your boyfriend cares, if he wants to be supportive, and wants to help you learn how to interact with your kids in a different way, but he shouldn’t be the one doing it. It’s up to you to be the one interacting with your kids, and helping set the boundaries and the guidelines for how things are going to be in your home.

This is a hard one. How to address issues without arguing?

 
It’s very easy to argue. It’s very easy to get caught up in the way that someone said something.
Because of that, it’s very important to think about the quality of the interactions that you want to have, and to set this intention, either with your partner or yourself: “I would rather have a peaceful, loving interaction than argue, and that’s more important to me than being right.”
So if you have a topic that you would like to discuss with your significant other, and you don’t want to argue about it, get clear, set that intention beforehand, and tell them before the conversation: “I don’t want to argue, I want to share with you, I want to feel heard, and I want to understand you too.”

One trick to stop criticizing is to say: I feel.

 
I feel this way, I feel that way.
Not: “you did this, you made me feel this way.”
“I feel this way” as a means to share and let the other person know your experience, not all the things that they did wrong and should’ve done better.

Here are six surprising things that anxiety might be causing you to do.

 
Sometimes we think we have one problem, but it’s really another problem. Some of these problems include eating, drinking, shopping, isolating yourself and keeping yourself separate from other people, not going out, not socializing, working too hard, yelling, etc.
So if you think that the issue is that you can’t control your eating, or drinking, if you keep shopping, if you don’t feel like being social, if you don’t know why you keep yelling at your kids or your husband, or if you don’t want to be around anybody, it might not be about any of those things. It might just be about what’s going on inside of you and those feelings of anxiety. So learning how to soothe, breathe, and take care of those feelings, automatically makes all those other situations improve.