Why is marriage harder than dating?

 
The reason marriage is so much more challenging than dating is because you and your spouse live together. When you’re dating you have time apart, you have time for yourself. Then, you go on a date and you have specific allocated time that is just for the two of you, and then you have a specific allocated time to be separate.
But when you live with somebody, it all kind of meshes together.
So, if you can think about marriage the way that dating once was, and create that kind of dynamic in your home, it could be really helpful.
Allocate time for yourself, time for the two of you, time for the whole family, and then differentiate, because all of those different times need specific undivided attention.

What to do when your partner is being selfish?

 
This can be really challenging and annoying, but the best thing you can do is try to figure out how to take better care of your needs, and how to be more selfish as well. Not selfish in a negative way, but selfish as in prioritizing yourself and your needs, making those needs known, and taking care of them.
Share your requests and requirements, say what you need, and then make sure you get it. That will help you learn that when your partner is being selfish, it isn’t necessarily about you. It might just be them taking care of their needs, and it could be something for you to learn from.

Today we’re going to talk about how to be calm and how to stress less as a parent.

 
The most important thing to do is focus on our breath. When we are anxious and stressed, our breath gets short and tight in our chest.
If we take long, calm, deep breaths, it really just grounds us in the moment, and that’s what we need most when we’re feeling stressed and anxious. It’s not something we’re going to solve with our minds. It has to be something that we solve with our hearts and with our bodies, to come to the stillness of a moment around us.
We need to look outside ourselves, feel the wind on our face, hear the birds chirping, touch our skin, do whatever it takes to stop getting more caught up in our minds, and come deeper into our hearts.

Should you tell your date that you have children? It’s a good question!

 
I think that it’s really important on your first date, and on all your dates, to be as authentic and real as possible.
Why? Because your future significant other is going to want the real you. You showing up as the realest, most authentic version of yourself is what’s going to weed out all the people who are not your person.
So do you have kids? Yes. Should you talk about them? If they are significant to you, then yes, you should talk about them, because your significant other would want to know. And if a date doesn’t want to know them, then they’re not your person.