Internal: What are specific things you can do to fill your “love tank” that will help you evolve into the woman who attracts your ideal man? (Examples: therapy, meditation, exercise, eating healthy, positive influences etc.)
External: What are things that you can do that will add value to your own life and also make you more available and open to your ideal mate? (Examples: activities, classes, sports, online dating etc.)
Make a list or describe all of the feelings, tendencies, and/or way of being that you want to experience in your ideal relationship (ie. open, direct, comfortable, free, etc.)
Look at your list of who you want to be in your ideal relationship. How many of these characteristics do you currently exude and how many do you need to work on?
If you met your ideal match what would be the qualities that he or she would want in their ultimate partner? Do you have those qualities? If not, how can you go about working towards them?
Make a list of the ultimate NEEDS you require in your life partner. These are things that you cannot live without. Then make a list of the WANTS you would like in your life partner. These are things that you would like him or her to have but could manage if they didn’t have. If you would like to divide them up further into the “Fundamental Five” types of connection feel free to do so as well. (Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual, Chemistry, Lifestyle)
NEEDS | WANTS
List specific ways in which you would like to improve yourself, regarding your relationship tendencies. Under each item list the specific ways HOW you would like to go about doing this. Be specific.
GOAL 1: I want to be less judgmental and more open to the men I date
a) notice my own insecurities that make me feel the need to judge
b) try to be compassionate and understanding towards other people’s experiences