It’s so natural to feel jealous of other people and to envy things about them that you wish that you had.

 
It’s really important to realize that, oftentimes, what we do is we compare our insides to other people’s outsides.
So when you look at me, you might have some impression about me, but you don’t know how long it took me to get my hair done, or how much work it took to put on this makeup, or put together this set, or create these questions, or anything else about me. You have no idea what’s going on behind the scenes, at home with my kids or my husband. We don’t know what’s really going on with people.
So when we get into a compare-mode and we feel jealous about other people, we need to trust that there’s something more going on behind the scenes too, and that we’re all human. Just because people seem a certain way and have something that we don’t have, it doesn’t mean that they don’t have other stuff going on too.

Here are five tips to calm your kid when they’re having a tantrum.

 
Tip 1: Focus on the source not the symptom. When they are acting insane, it’s really important to figure out what’s at the core of it. Rather than responding to their symptoms, their behaviors, and how they’re acting, what’s really at the core of it? Are they hungry? Are they tired? Do they need attention? Do they feel misunderstood? Really try to get to the source of the issue, and address that directly.
Tip 2: Try to give them control and stop getting in a power struggle with your kids. Give them the control that they want.
Tip 3: Don’t fuel the fire. Don’t make it worse by yelling and adding more intensity to the situation.
Tip 4: Breathe. Just breathe with them.
Tip 5: If none of these things work, distract them. Go do something else.

It can be painful to feel like your partner isn’t prioritizing you.

 
In this sensitive situation, where you feel like your partner is selfish, or isn’t looking out for your needs, there’s one thing you can do.
You have to start prioritizing yourself and take care of your needs. That’s the only way.
We can’t control or change others, but we can make sure that our needs get met.
So, if you want to go to the gym, or if you want to go out on a girls night, but your partner isn’t offering, you have to decide what you want to do and do it yourself. Not in aggressive, assertive, oppositional kind of way, but in a calm way, explaining that those are your needs and you need to make sure they’re met, and that you request from your partner to adapt accordingly.

How to have a happier marriage?

 
Having a happier marriage really just comes down to the moments. It comes down to being kinder, more loving, more present, and more attentive in your moments with your person.
Treat your partner like you would somebody that you love. Don’t say a rough “hey,” but say a loving “hi” when you see them. Stand up, greet them and smile when they walk in. When they talk, listen. Be interested. Treat them the way that you would somebody who you respect and somebody whose love you want back. Because if you think about what does it feel like for them to be loved by you, you might get a deeper sense of why they’re acting the way that they’re acting if it’s not so great.