Today I’m going to talk a little bit about how to prepare for the weight gain of pregnancy. It’s a big topic and women are really concerned about what’s going to happen to their body, whether they will gain weight, and etc.

 
One thing to really focus on is to trust in the process, and to be consistent in your patterns and habits from the get-go. If you want to take the baby weight on, and let the baby weight fall off, it’s very important to trust that your body can and will do that. There’s no reason for your body to hold on the weight, if you are eating healthy and exercising, and if you have a consistent routine. What often happens is people throw that out the window. They think: “oh I’m pregnant, I can eat whatever,” or “I shouldn’t exercise for whatever reasons,” and then that’s when things start getting a little complicated.
I was doing spin classes until 37 weeks! I just went every day and moved my body, and that was part of the routine. If I wanted macaroni and cheese, I ate macaroni and cheese, but the majority of my diet was fruits and vegetables. If you focus and stick to a healthy pattern from the beginning, the weight comes on, and the weight falls off.

Here’s the third and final tip on how to get on the same page with your spouse.

 
One last thing to consider is that you actually need to plan to get on the same page with your spouse. It doesn’t happen naturally and organically just because you hope for it. You need to really get clear, set intentions, make a schedule, understand what’s expected of the other person, clarify and verify what your needs are, and then verify that they’re being met.
What it really comes down to is getting clear with your spouse and not expecting things to just be good because they should be. Relationships, unfortunately, take work and aren’t always easy, but they’re worth it. Think of it like a business. If you want something to be successful in business you don’t just expect it to be successful. You actually have to get clear about your plan and how you want to achieve it.

The second tip on how to get on the same page with your spouse is about understanding that we all have different love languages.

 
There are five fundamental languages of love:

• Touch
• Words
• Gifts
• Acts of service
• Quality time

 
Everyone has a different way of giving and receiving love. Think of it in terms of languages – one person speaks Chinese and another person speaks French. These two people could love each other so much, but if one person is saying “I love you” in a language that the other person doesn’t understand, then it’s not being received.
So it’s very important for you to realize what is the thing that your partner complains most about? What do they nag you most about? Because that’s usually their language of love. If they say: “you’re not taking out the trash,” that means acts of service. That’s how they need you to demonstrate love, by doing acts of service. If they say: “you don’t hug me or touch me enough,” their language of love is touch. If they say: “you don’t tell me you love me,” their language of love are words.
You need to pay attention to what are the core complaints of your partner, and realize that they need to be given love in the language that they hear it and receive it, because otherwise you could be giving them love all day long, but they won’t be getting it.

I’m here to talk to you today about how to get on the same page with your spouse. This is the first of three tips:

 
The first thing to realize is that getting on the same page with your partner shouldn’t be expected. You are two different people, coming from two different worlds, so it’s okay not to be on the same page.
If your spouse doesn’t understand you, it’s your job to communicate better. Communication is your responsibility. If somebody else doesn’t understand what you’re saying, that’s your fault, not theirs. So you need to come up with new strategies to communicate better so that what it is that you’re saying is understood.