Doubting Yourself as a Parent?

January 17th, 2019

Let’s talk a little bit about what to do when you doubt yourself as a parent.

There are three things to really think about in that moment when you’re doubting yourself as a parent, feeling like you don’t know what you’re doing, thinking that you’re doing a bad job, or wondering what you could be doing differently.

The first thing to really think about is what would love do? What would love do, how can you be love? Because love isn’t ever controlling, angry, or aggressive. Love is open. I’d like to think of love as an open hand that isn’t holding on to anything, but lets things flow and pass through.

Another thing to think about is: what am I supposed to be learning right now? When we think about parenting, oftentimes we think a lot about what it is we want to teach our kids, but the reality is that they are our teachers as well. And so, when we are struggling, when we’re doubting ourselves, we really need to be focusing on what it is that we need to be learning right then, in that moment.

The last thing to remember is that it’s okay to be human. It’s okay. It’s okay not to know. It’s okay to doubt yourself. It’s okay to be human, because we are, and as long as we’re learning, as long as we’re growing, as long as we’re coming back to love, then there’s nothing better we can be doing.

Jasmin Terrany, LMHC

Jasmin Terrany, LMHC has a Skype based private practice empowering women who appear to have it yet still feel unsatisfied on some level. She helps women access their ultimate potential and take their lives to the next level in every realm. Jasmin is a Columbia University graduate and licensed psychotherapist who invented Life Therapy, the combination of psychotherapy & coaching with mindfulness & meditation.