Sandi Glandt is the creator of The Modern Moms Manual, an online training course for women entering the exciting yet and intimidating world of motherhood. Stemming from her passion in health and wellness, Sandi created The Modern Moms Manual to help women navigate through every trimester of pregnancy and into motherhood. From healthy grocery lists, to workouts and helpful products, to connecting with your partner before baby – Sandi will prepare you for the wild ride of motherhood.
Sandi is also the founder of The Modern Moms Club Podcast, another resource to help moms navigate the ins and outs of motherhood.
Sandi is happily married to husband Jarrod Glandt and together they have one son Jacob. They reside in sunny Miami, Florida.
In this conversation, Sandi and I discuss her journey, where she’s coming from, who she is and what’s gotten her here. We talk about life, parenthood, challenges, triumphs and everything in between.
We start by discussing Sandi’s current life, and what she’s up to both personally and professionally. She candidly shares about her journey to motherhood, and talks about the physical, emotional, and hormonal challenges she faced in the first moths after giving birth.
She then goes on to explain how all of these things lead her to creating The Modern Moms Manual, a non-sugarcoated guide to motherhood that she wishes she had before getting pregnant. The manual covers all of the stages of becoming a parent, including a pre-pregnancy diet to follow and a guide on getting your body ready for pregnancy, as well as advice on how to prepare for a baby financially and emotionally, and how to connect with your partner.
In addition to all of this, we discuss Sandi’s career as well as her upbringing, and how her entrepreneurial dad influenced both her approach to business and to finding a partner.
We wrap up the conversation with a few truly powerful takeaways.

 
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Today we’re going to talk about sex! Are you ready for this one?

 
How come your partner wants to have sex more than you do, or neither of you want to, or your sex drives are just not in alignment?
There are few things to think about in this situation. Men and women approach sex differently. We all know this theoretically, but it might be helpful to really consider it. Generally speaking, men think of sex as an opportunity, and women often think of sex as a way to connect.
Men want to use sex as a way to be closer to their woman, but women don’t want to have sex unless they feel close to their man. So, in order to get on the same page, it’s important to realize that men often get turned on by the thought of it, but women often get turned on by the act of it. Because of that, it’s crucial to set an intention for intimacy in a relationship. Just like exercise is the foundation of a good body, intimacy and connection is the foundation of a good relationship.

Today, I want to give you three tips to help with anxiety.

 
Everybody’s got anxiety and stress. So how do we deal with it?
Essentially, when we feel anxious our mind is spinning, our heart starts racing, and our feelings are all up connected with our thoughts. So we’ve got these thoughts and these feelings and they’re just going. We have no control over them, we feel so stuck in them, and we don’t know what to do. So how do we deal with it? By taking a step back and understanding that there’s a bigger picture.
There are three key ways to get yourself out of your stuff, and realize that all these reactions happening inside your body aren’t actually important.
1. Say “at least”
This is a great way to find gratitude. At least your kids are healthy, at least you have running water, at least you have clean air. There are so many things in our lives that people don’t have, and when we get all caught up in them, we create anxiety around things that don’t matter. In that way, we’re not only doing ourselves a disservice, but we’re doing a disservice to those around us.
2. Say “so what”
So what if you’re late, so what if you don’t show up to work on time, so what if your kids want to wear their pajamas to school, so what? When you’re in the moment of a hurricane, or a disaster, or a tragedy, you start to realize that all of those things that we think are important really aren’t important. The things that we react to and create anxiety in our lives usually don’t matter as much as we think that they do. So how do we bring that awareness to the forefront of our mind and keep things in perspective? By saying “so what.”
3. Say “I get to” instead of “I have to”
There’s a lot of: “Oh I have to do this, I have to do that.” Change that with: “I get to do this.” “I get to clean my dirty dishes because I’m able-bodied and have food to eat. I get to go to my job because I am lucky enough to have a job.” There are so many things we have that are blessings to us, and so many people don’t have them.
So just when you’re feeling stressed, and you’re feeling anxious, it’s really important to use these strategies to come back to what matters most. Because, in reality, the things that we think are important usually aren’t.

Today I’m going to give you another tip on how to communicate better with your partner. Ready for this one? It’s a good one!

 
When communicating with your partner, it’s really important to think about them as being on one side of a bridge, and you on another. So what you need to do first is go to their side of the bridge. When they’re talking, you need to reflect back what it is that you hear them saying. You’re not fixing anything, you’re not changing anything, you’re not challenging anything, you’re just starting with: “I hear you.” Because once somebody feels heard, then they’ll be willing to cross the bridge, come to your side, and listen to your story.
The only way to get someone to listen to you is for you to listen first.