Today I want to talk a little bit about how to get along with people who have different personalities, whether it’s your spouse, your business partner, or a friend.

 
If you simplify it, people have either feminine energy or masculine energy. Feminine energy and masculine energy does not refer to a man or a woman, but it’s related to soft energy and hard energy. Some people have more masculine energy, while others have more feminine energy.
When people get along, they’re in polarity, which means that the feminine energy and masculine energy come together. But what often happens when we’re not getting along with people is that we’re both coming from the same energy. So you might be good with your significant other because you’re in feminine energy and they’re in masculine energy, and then all of a sudden you’re repelling each other, because you’re both coming from the same energy. We all have both energies.
So pay attention, if you’re out of alignment with someone, or their personality clashes with you, or something’s not going right, think about whether you’re coming at each other with the same energy. Usually, when this happens, both sides have masculine energy that works against one other, and they need to find a way to connect to their softer energy in order to get back into polarity with the person in question.

In this day and age of social media and too many surface interactions, it can feel much more difficult to make real friends and create genuine connections with people.

 
One important strategy for making real friends and real connections is to be as authentic and as real as possible. You don’t have to be perfect, you don’t have to have it all together, you don’t have to fake it.
If you want to make some real friends and some real connections, be real and be vulnerable. Ask people things about themselves, and don’t just talk about the surface things. Be honest, share what’s really going on inside of you, and be interested in what’s going on inside of them too.
When we talk about external things we create surface relationships. When we talk about internal things we create real deep and connected relationships.

Here’s a question for you: are you having trouble exercising consistently?

 
Do you get into exercising for a long time, then quit, and then don’t do it for a while? Is it hard to get in a routine and really stick with it? There’s one thing for you to consider.
Exercise for consistency, not for achievement. Do not exercise because you want to lose weight, do not exercise because you want to gain muscle, or because you want to do reps, or all those things. If you want to actually do something for the long-term, you need to figure out what’s the bare minimum that you can do every day comfortably, without resisting it, without hating it, without thinking it’s difficult.
I started by going to the bike. I would do all my emails, get my work done, and I’d barely sweat. But I did it every single day. And after a while, when I got into that habit, I started increasing. But in order to create a habit of consistently exercising, you need to start with something that you don’t mind doing.

Overwhelm is a really common thing that people experience.

 
When you’re feeling overwhelmed there are three things that you should consider.
1. Get organized – Be proactive versus reactive
In my own life, when my kids would wake up, I would roll out of bed and just start reacting to the day. Getting proactive versus reactive, means being intentional about how we spend our time, and we’re setting the tone for how we want our day to go.
2. Take care of yourself – Prioritize your own needs first, because you are the foundation of your life
We need to ask ourselves: how can we exercise, how can we meditate, how can we go to therapy, how can we journal, how can we do whatever it is that we require to take care of ourselves, and that needs to be in our schedule first, before anything else. We often think: “Oh when things get better, then I’ll take care of myself,” but things don’t get better if we don’t take care of ourselves first.
3. Prioritize – Decide what is important to you
We need to decide what we want to accomplish on a certain day, and prioritize that above all. One thing that’s been really helpful for me is I don’t actually get started with emails, until I get my one or two things done that I’ve decided are my priorities for the day.